Chapter 3: Why Can't She Just Be Herself?.

1. Emily Hancock, PhD, quoted by Elium and Elium in Raising a Daughter (Berkeley, Calif.: Celestial Arts, 2003), 52.

2. Allender, How Children Raise Parents, 25.

3. Sari Solden, Women with Attention Deficit Disorder (Ann Arbor, 1999), viii.

4. Ibid.

5. Elium and Elium, Raising a Daughter, 306.

6. Ibid., 308.

7. Ibid.

Chapter 4: What Does She See When She Looks in the Mirror?.

1. "How the Industry Is Changing," Seventeen (May 2007), 149.

2. Janice Dickinson, quoted in "Role Models," Seventeen (May 2007), 149.

3. Elium and Elium, Raising a Daughter, 59-60.

4. Howe and Strauss, Millennials Rising, 19.

5. Elium and Elium, Raising a Daughter, 61.

6. Nancy Rue, Beauty Lab (Grand Rapids: Zonderkidz, 2007), 14 16.

Chapter 5: Passing the Beauty Care Baton.

1. Dr. Mary Manz Simon, speaking at a seminar for booksellers at the 2006 International Christian Retail Sales convention on trends in children's products.

2. Ibid.

3. Rue, Beauty Lab, 17 18.

4. Ibid., 19.

Chapter 6: "But You're Beautiful on the Inside...".

1. Rue, Beauty Lab, 86.

2. Dan Kimball, The Emerging Church (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2003), 136.

3. The Book of Common Prayer, 857.

Part 3: Who Are You, and What Have You Done with My Little Girl?

1. Paul Caminiti, at a "Tween Meeting" held at Zondervan Publishing, June 2006.

2. Lisa Marshall, "Early Bloomers," Alternative Medicine (September 2006), 60.

3. Ibid.

Chapter 7: The Biggest Deal Since Potty Training.

1. Elium and Elium, Raising a Daughter, 67.

2. Quoted by Howe and Strauss in Millennials Rising, 190.

3. Tom Randall, "25 percent of teen girls have an STD, study reveals," Nashville Tennessean. Randall is quoting statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

4. "The Real Costs of Teen Pregnancy," Washington, D.C. National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, September 2006.

5. Elium and Elium, Raising a Daughter, 319.

6. Nancy Rue, Body Talk (Grand Rapids: Zonderkidz, 2007), 125.

Chapter 8: The Care and Feeding of a Tween.

1. Marilyn Lipsey, master barber at Salon YaYa, in Nashville, Tennessee, in a September 24, 2009 interview.

2. Gloria Beim, M.D., and Ruth Winter, M.S., The Female Athlete's Body Book (Contemporary Books, 2003), 217.

3. Sokolove, Warrior Girls, 189.

4. National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, 2005.

5. Beim and Winter, 217.

6. Ibid., 218.

7. Sokolove, 226.

8. Ibid., 235.

9. "Americans Eat Out...," Business Wire, June 14, 2006; backed up by research firm NPD Group, January 2009.

10. Howe and Strauss, Millennials Rising, 170.

11. Rue, Body Talk, 111.

12. Stephen Arterburn and Dr. Linda Mintle, Lose It for Life (Integrity Publishing, 2004).

13. Eugene Peterson, Christ Plays in 10,000 Places (Grand Rapids: Eerd-mans, 2005), 215.

14. Journal of Pediatrics study, 2006.

15. 2008 CDC study, reported on the "Youth Violence" website, Summer 2009.

Chapter 9: The Gospel according to Friends.

1. Elium and Elium, Raising a Daughter, 76.

2. Rue, Girl Politics, 110.

3. Dale McElhinney, doctor of psychology and therapist in private practice, in an August 2006 interview.

4. Garbarino, See Jane Hit, 108.

5. Barbara Coloroso, The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander (New York: HarperCollins, 2003).

Chapter 10: When It Gets Ugly.

1. Journal of Pediatrics study, 2006.

2. 2008 CDC study, reported on the "Youth Violence" website, Summer 2009.

3. Elium and Elium, Raising a Daughter, 76.

4. Rue, Girl Politics, 110.

5. Dale McElhinney, doctor of psychology and therapist in private practice, in an August 2006 interview.

6. Garbarino, See Jane Hit, 108.

7. Barbara Coloroso, The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander (New York: Harper Collins, 2003).