I laugh. And, unforgivably, do Ingrid: plod, plod.

Then we round the final corner, and Bug is gone.

"Oh, no," Ingrid wails. She turns around and stamps her foot.

"He's gone," I say to my mother.

"He's gone?" d.i.c.k Traeger says.

My mother starts to giggle. She puts her hand over her mouth, and she laughs and laughs.

"It's not funny," Ingrid says. "It's not fair."

d.i.c.k Traeger steps over to a trash can and lets the plate of food fall from his hand. He faces my mother and crosses his arms over his chest. "You find it funny," he says.

She turns away from him, biting her lip. I can see she's biting it hard, hard enough for it to hurt, and I know what she's doing: trying to sober up. It's what I do in school to stop myself from laugh-ing-that, or I say to myself, over and over again, My grandfather's dead, my grandfather's dead, and although I never knew him, my mother's father, it works.

"Come on," I say to Ingrid. "Let's go see if it's still warm."

We leave them standing there and cross the arcade to the empty niche. It's not warm, but there's a stone in it, and I say, "Hey, what's this?"

"A rock," Ingrid says. "You stupid."

"I think he left it here for you." I pick it up and see that it's got some kind of writing on it. "It's got a message on it," I say.

"It does not."

It's too dark right here to read it, so I step into the courtyard, out into what's left of the daylight. The stone is about the size of a hamburger patty, bigger than it looked when Bug took it from his pocket; painted on it, in dark green letters I can barely make out, are the words "Please Turn Me Over." I turn the stone over. "Thank You," it says on the other side.

I turn around. Ingrid is leaning against the wall, pouting-apparently not really looking at me. I pretend to throw the stone toward the fountain, just in case she is looking, then I put it in my pocket. I decide that I'll wait and give it to her when we get home tonight. Or maybe tomorrow.

I go back under the arcade. "Let's go tell Dad," I say.

"Tell him what," she says, but she follows after me. We walk past my mother and d.i.c.k Traeger, both of whom now have their arms crossed over their chests, and I hear my mother say the word "mistake." We keep walking.

AFTER MY MOTHER died Ingrid and I picked a weekend and met at the house in Palo Alto to sort through her things. Instead of having children Ingrid and Bruce had bought a Universal gym, and Ingrid was lean and hard, her hair blown dry so you could see the comb marks in it.

"You know what I was imagining driving down here?" she said. "Big fights over china and silver, like I even care." She looked around our mother's living room, all blue and green silk-tasteful, you could have said, to a fault. She picked up a throw pillow, a little jade jewel. "What, for example, would I do with this?"

"Sit on it?" I said. "Listen, this isn't about apportioning, is it? Let's just make sure we know what's here and we'll sell it, OK?"

"Sure."

Her purse still hung from her shoulder. "Shall we have a seat?" I said.

She set the purse down and sat on the edge of the couch. I sat opposite her, my mother's wide gla.s.s coffee table between us. "Something to drink?" I said. "I picked up a few things on my way from the airport."

She smirked.

"Mr. Host," I said. "Sorry."

"Better you than me." Ingrid sat back and put her feet up. "Do you realize that until she got sick I hadn't been here since my wedding? All I can think about is standing right over there in that horrifying dress she made me buy and her making these little disappointed sounds like I'd picked it and she didn't really approve but she wasn't going to say anything. I can't tell you how close we came to blowing the whole thing off and just going to a justice of the peace."

"If we cantaloupe," I said, "lettuce marry, and we'll make a peach of a pear."

"Ha, ha," said Ingrid, but she smiled and seemed to relax a little.

Her wedding had been the killing blow for her and my mother: when Ingrid announced that she was going to marry, my mother's vision blurred past Bruce, who coached girls' soccer and softball at a junior high school, and past Ingrid, whom she could never clearly see, and focused instead on some kind of ur-wedding, for which, at the very least, special orchids would have to be grown. It was a beautiful, beautiful wedding, a huge, gorgeous straw on the back of a very weak camel.

"You know what was in the freezer?" I said.

"What?"

"A piece of your wedding cake."

Ingrid grinned. "I guess she forgot to put it under her pillow so she'd dream about the man she was going to marry."

"Maybe she was afraid she'd dream about the one she did marry."

"Poor guy," said Ingrid.

We started in the bedroom. Ingrid wanted a picture of the four of us on the beach when she and I were very young, and another of me at my college graduation, hair to my shoulders and a wide paisley tie. I said that I'd take my mother's bedside lamp. We stood at the dresser and looked uneasily at each other.

"I'm not really sure I feel up to her underwear," Ingrid said.

"Courage."

She pulled open the top drawer and her mouth fell open. "What?"

Inside were perhaps forty small boxes-china boxes, papiermache boxes, silver and straw and wood boxes. Most of them had been gifts from me, but seeing them all together was a shock: the collection seemed to amount to a kind of fetish. (But whose fetish? My mother's or mine? And boxes-what would Herself say?) "Jesus," Ingrid said. She opened a box; inside was a pair of earrings. She opened another: the same. She began pulling the boxes out of the drawer and opening them: a pin, more earrings, a bracelet, tiny locks of our baby hair tied in blue and pink ribbons (and here Ingrid looked away from me, hurried on to the next box), more earrings, another bracelet. "Why didn't she just get a jewelry box?" she said.

I saw how she could think that, I really did. But I missed my mother so much at that moment that I felt breathless: how we'd have laughed together at the idea that one thing could ever have been as satisfying to her as forty things.

"Are you OK?" Ingrid said. "Do you want to take a break?"

"I'm fine."

"Sure?"

I nodded.

She opened a square leather box I'd bought for my mother in Florence. "What's this?"

In the box was a stiff, yellowing card, soft-cornered, on which were printed two letters: N. D.

"G.o.d." I took the card out of the box.

"What is it?"

I thought: If she doesn't remember, why dredge it up? Although, to be honest, I'm not sure whom I thought I was protecting. I put the card back and closed the box. "Actually," I said, "maybe we should take a break. I mean, we've been at it for what, fifteen minutes? I bought some cheese and crackers."

"Robert." She opened the box again. "Tell me."

You hated sharing her, I heard Kevin saying. With your father or with Ingrid. "Don't you remember that night?" I said. "The English Department party and that guy Bug?"

Ingrid blushed deeply. But: "No," she said.

"Well, then-it's too hard to explain."

She bit her lip. She took a long breath and sat on the bed. "You know what kills me?" she said after a while. "She really didn't give a s.h.i.t what we knew or didn't know."

I thought that this was wrong, at least in my case. She wanted, needed me to know.

"You know?" Ingrid said. "I mean, do you think d.i.c.k Traeger was even the only one?"

I knew he wasn't: his distinction was that he was the first. "Probably not," I said. "In fact, she once had me help her choose what to wear to an a.s.signation."

Once?

Ingrid rolled her eyes. "a.s.signation," she said. "That word makes it sound so romantic." She watched me for a little while, and then she reached into the drawer for another box.

IT WAS ROMANTIC, Ingrid. It was. "What do you think, Buddy?" my mother says. "With the belt or without? With the earrings or no? This scarf?" It's a Sat.u.r.day morning; Ingrid is out roller-skating, my father is at his office on the campus. I'm sitting on a stool in my parents' bathroom, watching my mother as she turns from side to side, admiring herself in the mirror. Her face is slightly flushed, intense, her mind racing ahead to the moment when he first sees her. We are pretending, both of us, that she's going to meet a woman friend for lunch, and we both know that we both know we're only pretending. My mother slips on her shoes and reaches for a bottle of perfume. She turns to face me. "Come and smell, Buddy," she says. "What do you think?"

LATE ON THE night of my mother's yellow dress I heard my parents arguing in their bedroom, and even later I woke to find my mother in my room, standing at the window: I couldn't see her so much as feel that she was there. Somehow, without my even rolling over, she knew I had awakened, and she started to talk to me.

"I'm not going anywhere, Buddy," she said. "I wasn't meant to live this life, but that doesn't mean I'm going to leave it." She moved over to my desk, and I heard her pull out the chair and sit down. "Would you like to hear a secret?" she said. "My daddy would hate it if he knew I'd married your father."

I didn't say anything. I was beginning to be able to see, and I saw her pick up something from my desk and hold it to her face. Bug's stone. I was afraid she would ask me what it was, or turn on the light to see. I imagined her reading it aloud, whispering, "Please turn me over. Thank you." I knew it was something she would love-"That's just how I feel," she would say, laughing a little. "Can I have it, Buddy?" And I would give it to her.

She shifted in the chair. "I was just starting to date your father when Daddy got sick," she said. "I took the train from New York City to New Orleans, and Daddy himself met me at the station, weak as he was. First thing he said to me was 'How's your love life, h.e.l.lie?'-he was always asking me that. I told him I was dating a fellow from Columbia University. Daddy asked was he Jewish, and when I said no he said too bad he wasn't because it would've given him a reason to make me break it off. He said a university professor wasn't anybody a girl like me ought to marry. I told him I wasn't about to marry anyone, and he said to me, 'h.e.l.lie, the one to marry is the one who makes you burn.' " My mother laughed. "I was twenty-one years old," she said. "I thought that in all the world no father had ever said such a thing to his daughter. He said, 'There's never been a university professor who knew a thing about that.' And you know what? He was right."

She stood up. "I was twenty-one years old," she said again. "Your father and I gave off some heat together and I took it as a sign." She set the stone on my desk and came over to sit on the edge of my bed. In the dark her hand found my ear, and she stroked it. "I kind of had fun tonight in my new dress," she said. "Do you know what I mean?"

I nodded.

"He's nodding," she said. "Nodding off." She leaned over and kissed my forehead. "Don't worry about anything, Buddy," she whispered. "None of this has to do with children."

INGRID TOOK THE two photographs, my mother's wedding ring, and, saying it might come in handy someday, a Pyrex ca.s.serole.

I took the lamp and the card that said N. D.

The rest we arranged to have sold along with the house, while my mother's voice whispered, Buddy, the silver? The good linens? Buddy?

The lamp I needed. The card I put in the bottom of a drawer, to come across years from now when I've forgotten about it again, like an old program that reminds you not just of the glittering lit-up stage, but of afterward, too: the dusty red velvet seats and the sound of rain falling outside, rain that's been falling for a long time.

The stone I keep on my coffee table, as I have since I've had a coffee table, with the "Thank You" side up, which I suppose reveals something about me, I'm not sure what.

AUGUST 4TH, AND it's Papa Louie's birthday again! Up from San Francisco, Berkeley, and Sacramento, down from Auburn and Truckee, daughters and grandchildren and even a great-grand, nieces and nephews and cousins, and friends, for Papa Louie has many friends and admirers; they come to Placerville. They come to swim in the pond, for hamburgers grilled by Uncle Don, Miriam's homemade bread and b.u.t.ter pickles, and pears, pears, pears; Papa Louie lives on a pear orchard and attributes his long, long lease on life to the numerous pears he eats every day. A perfect pear is a beautiful thing! The hipsters come up from L.A., and from Menlo Park come Ellen and Matt and their sadness.

BUT AT TEN o'clock it's still quiet, not yet hot. Back from the first of his three daily walks around the perimeter of his property, Papa Louie lies on the bed in his study and addresses himself to a set of calculus problems from a college textbook left at the house long ago by someone-who knows who. One of the acceptable things about losing your memory, he thinks, is that you can solve the same problems from the same book, over and over again. Find the slope of ...

Miriam, the eldest of his three daughters, stands at the oven in the kitchen, impatient for the last pear tart to brown. Up since six, she's been, because the tarts must be fresh: this is her father's one desire. Who wants a ninetieth birthday party? But by G.o.d, if you're going to have one, at least give them a nice pear tart. Ten nice pear tarts! Miriam sighs. Her sisters will arrive in an hour, wanting to help, and she'd love to tell them: No, it's too late, I've done it all myself. The day that happens! What she'll really say is: Nonsense, chickies, let's relax and have an iced tea before the mobs get here.

She goes to the study door, hesitates a moment, and knocks.

"Miriam?" her father says.

Who else? She doesn't exactly live with him, but she's in Sacramento, close enough. Yet she hesitates again-to be sixty-six and afraid of your father! "Yes, it's me, Dad," she says.

"Well, what is it?"

She opens the door. "Would you like a cold drink?"

"No," he says, glaring at her, "I wouldn't."

She nods and closes the door again. If only he would let her shave him! But this he reserves for the weekly visits of Pansy, her youngest sister. "Pansy has the stillest hands," he says. Pansy, who doesn't even care how he looks. "Oh, let him," she says-wander around in pajamas all day, eat with his hands, pa.s.s gas at the table.

Miriam goes back into the kitchen and checks on the tart: a little anemic-looking, but she takes it out anyway.

THE SAN FRANCISCO contingent is stuck on the Bay Bridge: a baseball game at the Oakland Coliseum has traffic backed up almost to the city. No one mentions it, but they're all thinking of the same thing: the earthquake, almost a year ago now. Who can bear to be stuck on the Bay Bridge ever again?

Louisa, Papa Louie's middle daughter, is in the backseat; although her daughter Lucy is thirty-six, she still likes to ride up front, and what reason can Louisa give to deny her? "Try the left lane, dear," Louisa says to her husband.

Keith puts the turn signal on and turns the wheel so the car is pointed, more or less, to the left.

"There," Louisa says.

Still they don't move. Louisa twists her rings around her finger and wonders how Miriam is getting along with the preparations. She wanted to go up last night, but somehow something prevented it, she can't think what right now-and then she remembers: Ellen. Ellen called just as she was going to suggest to Keith that they call Lucy and leave that very minute. She talked to Ellen for an hour, and by then it was too late. Poor Ellen! Louisa doesn't know what to do about her younger daughter.

She leans forward. "I hope Ellen will make an effort today," she says. She doesn't mean it like that, but Lucy turns around and gives her a reproachful look-as if Louisa weren't just broken up over it all! She only wants what's best for her daughter, her baby. "I mean for her own sake, Lucy," she says.

Lucy shrugs.

The cars in the far right lane have begun to move. "Oh, look," Louisa says. "Now they're moving."

Keith switches the turn signal and turns the wheel all the way to the right.

UNCLE DON HEFTS a twenty-pound bag of charcoal into a wheelbarrow and pushes it to the stone barbeque twenty feet away: he's not so young anymore himself, although he's nothing like ninety. Papa Louie is Don's half-brother-half brother, half friend, that's what Louie always said!-and Don wouldn't dream of begrudging Louie or his girls an afternoon of barbeque duty. Anyway, the barbeque's close to the house, so he can get a cold beer whenever he feels like it. None of that keg stuff for Don! Miriam keeps a case of Bud in the second fridge for him; it's their secret.

PANSY SITS IN the backseat of the Jaguar her sons bought together last month. Two grown men sharing a car! But Jeremy and Stuart are like they were at five, bickering and in love.

Next to Pansy sits her grandson, Elias, Jeremy's child. Last night, when the boys arrived at her house in Berkeley, Pansy could hardly believe the change in Elias: four going on forty, the poor thing. Jeremy had him decked out in something absurd, and Stuart kept saying, "Ma, look at Elias's boots," and "Ma, wait'll you hear Elias on the piano." First thing out of the car in Placerville, Pansy's going to go in and lock the door on the piano room.

She looks across Elias's curly head-was his hair always so curly?-at Jeremy's girlfriend: Jane, or Jade as she seems to be called now. "Have you and Jeremy been enjoying the beach?" she says; in May Jeremy bought a house in Malibu.

Jade turns her lovely head and smiles at Pansy. She doesn't answer, but this isn't unusual; indeed, Pansy didn't expect an answer.

"Ma," Stuart says from the front seat, "wait'll you see Elias swimming!" He turns to look at his brother, and Jeremy shakes his head ever so slightly, a gesture meant only for Stuart.