"Only Time," Enya 105 He gave her a simple little music box that plays "As Time Goes By." In the card he wrote: "As times goes by I love you more and more."

106 You say you need more time in order to be more romantic? So create more time! The strategies for how to do so are in a great little book called No time for Sex: Finding the Time You Need for Getting the Love You Want, by David and Claudia Arp.

(PLAY IT AGAIN, SAM).

107a Multiple viewings of your lover's favorite movie.

107b Multiple honeymoons. (Not for newlyweds only!) 107c Multiple orgasms(!) 108 Renew your wedding vows. You could create a private little ceremony for just the two of you. Or you could restage an entire formal wedding!

Chapter Theme Songs:.

"Let's Do it Again," TLC "Again," John Legend Familiar gestures-performed with a creative twist-are hallmarks of people with A+ relationships.

109 Revisit the place where you proposed marriage. Take along a bottle of champagne. Toast your good fortune in having found each other.

110.

Reenact your first date.

Relive your first night together.

111 When's the last time you sat on his lap and "made-out" like you did in high school??

LOVE NOTES (I).

112 Write "I love you" on the bathroom mirror with a piece of soap. Yes, the writer has to clean the mirror.

113.

Write her a love letter or poem on one sheet of paper. Glue it to thin cardboard; cut it up into puzzle-shaped pieces; then mail all the pieces to her.

Or, mail one puzzle piece per day!

114 Write "I love you" on every page of a pack of Post-It Notes. Stick 'em all over the house!

115.

Write little love notes on the eggs in the refrigerator.

Draw funny faces on the eggs in the refrigerator.

116 Cut out interesting/suggestive/unusual/funny headlines from the daily newspapers. When you've collected about twenty-five of them, simply dump them in an envelope and mail them to your lover.

117 Write a short note to your lover that's spread out over several postcards. Write a short phrase on each postcard, then mail one at a time. You'll build anticipation for the romantic conclusion on the final postcard. (Maybe deliver that last one in person.)

LOVE NOTES (II).

118 Do you remember "passing notes" in school? Do you remember how to fold them up so they tuck into a neat little square? If not, find a teenager to advise you.

119 Put notes on various household products:.

Chapter Theme Song:.

"Love Letters," Diana Krall Joy dishwashing liquid: "Every day with you is a joy."

Cheerios: "Just knowing you love me cheers me up!"

Old Spice cologne: "You spice up my life!"

Ritz Crackers: "Let's 'Put On The Ritz' tonight! Let's go dancing!"

A roll of Lifesavers: "You're a lifesaver!"

Caress soap: "This is what I'm going to do to you tonight."

120.

Mail her a pack of matches. Attach a note: "I'm hot for you."

Mail him a pair of oven mitts. Attach a note: "I'm hot for you."

Mail her a bottle of Tabasco sauce. Attach a note: "I'm hot for you."

Mail him a pair of your sexiest panties. The note: "I'm hot for you."

121 Send an old-fashioned telegram. Call Western Union at 800-325-6000 or visit www.westernunion.com.

122 Write funny love notes on a roll of toilet paper.

Don't sign your love letters: "You're one-in-a-million." (That would mean that there are six thousand of her in the world.) Write notes on balloons with markers.

Trace your initials in the dust on the coffee table.

Write funny notes in the margins of her Cosmopolitan magazine.

Write sexy notes in the margins of his Playboy magazine.

Jot love notes in his appointment calendar.

Write romantic reminders on her to-do list.

FRESHMAN LESSONS.

123 Romance is a state of mind. If you have the right mind-set, you can make cleaning the bathroom romantic. If you have the wrong mind-set, you can turn a moonlit stroll on the beach into a miserable experience.

124 Romance is a state of being. It's about taking action on your feelings. It's a recognition that love in the abstract has no real meaning at all! Romance is best defined as "love-in-action." Love is the feeling-romance is the action. Got it?? Romance often starts as a "state of mind," but it must move beyond mere thoughts and intentions, and be communicated to your lover-through words, gifts, presents, gestures, touches, looks-through action.

125 Romance is about the little things. It's much more about the small gestures-the little ways of making daily life with your lover a bit more special-than it is about extravagant, expensive gestures.

126 There are two kinds of romance: 1) Obligatory, and 2) Optional. Obligatory romance is required by law. Look, if you forget to send roses on Valentine's Day, you'd simply better not show up at home! But optional romance is really more romantic. It's more genuine. It's making the romantic gesture when you're not required to. It's arriving home on a Tuesday after work with a bottle of champagne-just because! It's massages and messages. It's cards and candles and songs and...

Chapter Theme Song:.

"I've Got a Lot to Learn," Brooks & Dunn Freshman Orientation: Start with the basics, be yourself, take it one step at a time.

SOPHOMORE LESSONS.

127 Move beyond what I call "Generic Romance."

Generic Romance is the stuff that our culture has defined as "romantic": Chocolate, champagne, dinners, diamonds, movies, roses, lingerie, perfume, flowers, cards, and candy. Yes, this stuff is romantic-yes, I give roses to my wife Karyn sometimes-but it's only a start, it's just skimming the surface.

If you expect your relationship to survive (much less thrive) for fifty years or more, you must move waaay beyond Generic Romance.

128 Timing is everything.

Pulling surprises requires a superb sense of timing.

Belated birthday cards ought to be outlawed.

Chocolate is romantic-but not if she's on a diet.

Stick to small romantic gestures when he's totally preoccupied with a big work project. (Save the biggies until he can appreciate them.) 129 Flirt with her at a party, as if you were both single.

Freshmen level: Flirt just a little. Wink. Compliment her.

Sophomore level: Act out a complete "pick-up" fantasy, without any of the other guests being aware of what you're doing.

Junior level: Continue the fantasy as you return home!

Senior level: Act out the complete "pick-up" fantasy at the party-and sneak off to an empty room, porch, or closet, and make mad, passionate love!

Chapter Theme Song:.

"You Learn,"

Alanis Morissette.

Are you ready to move

beyond Generic Romance?

JUNIOR LESSONS.